I am going to tell you this right now, you absolutely can’t mess it up with the right guy.
- Called a guy a thirty times one night when I was drunk;
- Accidentally kissed a guys neck and missed his cheek because he was too tall!
- Talked for an hour to a guy on a super hot patio, not realizing my makeup had run all over my eyes and I had taken on a goth look.
Yes this all happened. I could go on, but for reputations sake let’s spare me the humiliation.
I bet you’re thinking these guys didn’t want to go out with me again, right? 100% they all went out with me again and everything was fine.
BUT if they didn’t go out with me again, I would trust that they were not the right guys for me.
You see, you can only be yourself. Sh*t happens and sometimes dates don’t go as planned or as perfect as we had hoped. What is truly important is how we handle the moments that could be otherwise awkward or embarrassing – or not “perfect.”
For example, after going to the bathroom and realizing I had intense, non planned goth eyes, I went back to the table and teased the hell out of my date about letting me go that long with melted makeup all over my face! It honestly broke the ice and we laughed about it.
It’s extremely easy to get caught up in your head after a date, wondering if you did anything wrong and if you’ll ever hear from him again.
The straight answer is – He’s not your guy if you don’t hear from him again. You can’t mess it up with the right guy.
We can spend hours going over every second of our last date together; what he said, what we said back, what we looked like, wondering if we came across right, wondering if we should have kissed him, if we did kiss him, was it too soon? It’s all so overwhelming.
But what I am telling you is, none of that matters with the right guy. As “bad” as things may seem, you can’t mess it up with the right guy.
The right guy will see through the clumsiness, awkward moments and wardrobe malfunctions, he will see through it all and see you for you.
Don’t worry about “messing things up.” If things appear to be “messed up,” then this is not your guy.