I HATE that feeling post breakup when you wake up in the morning and for a split second, you’ve forgotten that you’re broken up and no longer going to see that person again. Then the memory of your recent breakup comes flooding back in and you’re in utter hell. It’s like the breakup has happened all over again and your heart feels as if it’s been ripped out of your chest. Why even bother getting out of bed? And some days I didn’t.
There tends to be a lot of pressure to move on immediately post breakup. Some of that pressure is pressure we place on ourselves to forget our ex and stop the horrible pain we’re experiencing. The other part of that pressure, is our friends and families not wanting to see us in that perpetual pain and encouraging us to move on as quickly as possible and get “back in the game.” Getting “back in the game” is the least of your worries right now.
One of the best and simplest strategies I have employed post breakup is to just worry about getting through that day. Sometimes that meant staying in bed if I needed to and having a movie day.
You ONLY have to worry about getting through today.
Thinking about what’s going to happen months ahead, a week ahead or even a day ahead can be overwhelming, resulting in you feeling paralyzed in bed, unable to even start your day at the thought of trying to handle this breakup.
You don’t need to figure it all out today. You ONLY have to worry about getting through today.
Post breakup, focus on what you can do today to make you feel as comfortable as possible. Maybe staying in bed, cozy in your pjs and watching movies is what you need to do today. What would distract you just enough to take some of that pain away today? What would make you laugh today? What is something fun or soothing you could do for yourself today? Who could you call today that could just “be” with you, no stipulations and no pressure?
When we start focusing on what we need to do, to just to get through today, some of the anxiety and overwhelming feelings start to dissipate. Focusing on getting through today is more manageable. You don’t have to worry about what’s going to happen tomorrow right now. You just have to focus on what you need to do, to get you through today, as best you can. Whatever that may be, there is no judgment. Be as compassionate as you can with yourself during this time.
You WILL get through today and you WILL start feeling better.
All you need to worry about today is you and what will make you feel as comfortable as possible to get through this day.
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