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No One Is You And This Is Your True Power

Today, instead of comparing yourself to another, what if you focused on how amazing you are? You have your own unique journey to explore. When we compare and try and live our lives through someone else’s journey, we dim our own internal light.

No one is you and this is your true power.

When it comes to dating and heartbreak, it can be tempting to look at the person our ex is newly dating and think; what does she have that I don’t?

The answer is, nothing.

You’re not comparable. If he’s not with you, he’s not the one for you. She’s not better than you; he’s just not the right one for you. It’s not about her, and him being with her, doesn’t make you any less amazing.

No one is you and this is your true power.

You want someone who is going to choose you, for you. And remember, you choose them too. Why would you want someone who does not choose you back?

Obsessing over what she has that you don’t have only distracts you from how great you truly are. Think about it this way, she doesn’t have anything that you have, because you are uniquely you.

No one is you and this is your true power. You are most powerful, as you.

Don’t live a life trying to be anything other than your ultimate self. Don’t waste another day living a life that doesn’t speak to your true passion and who you really are. Instead of spending your time comparing yourself to others, work on spending time mastering your own internal love and journey.

You’re already enough, just as you are. This world is so lucky to have you, when you believe that, you’re unstoppable.

Why Comparing Yourself To Others Can Be Deadly For Your Well-Being

Young couple and woman looking at them at club

We’ve all done it at some point in our lives; comparing ourselves to another.  But most of the time the only real result that comes about from comparing yourself to others is feelings of self-doubt, jealousy, depression and low self-esteem.

Comparing yourself to others can truly bring out the worst in you especially if you’re comparing yourself against another to make you feel better.  This tactic breeds hostility and jealousy, where gossip and mean-spirited agendas can ensue.  Often times when someone is insecure they try to bring other people down by focusing on that person’s perceived imperfections.  These tactics are transparent and frankly tasteless.  It distracts you from focusing on your own goals and can confuse the good qualities you have.

Keep in mind when you’re comparing yourself to another the information you think you’re receiving is seldom completely accurate.  Even if you think you want to be that happy couple smiling and walking hand in hand down the street, you don’t know what is truly going on in their lives.  You have an unrealistic view of reality, all based on interpretation.  You cannot validate yourself through comparing your life to another and certainly not based on deficient or incomplete information.

There’s no harm in looking to others as motivators for goals and values you have established for yourself, as long as you have a clear boundary on what will make you, and you alone happy and most fulfilled in this life.

For example, I want to be a respected, famous transformational non-fiction book writer, coach and blogger.  Comparing myself to all the successful transformational writers and coaches out there would be exceptionally overwhelming.  Instead, I have great mentors around me that provide me with support, tools and techniques that I can in turn use to best suit my own unique personal goals and aspirations.

Being clear on what is most important to you first and foremost will allow you to discern and learn from the talents of others to be used in the best possible way to meet your own goals.

Wasting time comparing yourself to others only delays you from becoming the best possible version of you, and there is only one of you. How special and cool is that?