I can’t even count on both hands how many bad dates I have been on in my dating career.
One guy in particular had pursued me at work. He was attractive and nice and I was excited to get to know him better when we went out on that first date. But from the moment we met at the pub that night I immediately knew he was not my guy.
The waitress had come over to greet us in the entranceway to take us to our seats, but instead my date had decided he was looking for a particular beer and wanted to try samples…in the entranceway. I stood there awkward and frankly embarrassed, no drink in my hand, while my date tried the beer sample the waitress gave him. You’d think we would eventually take a seat but no, he wanted to go to another bar to find this elusive beer and didn’t even pay for the samples he was trying. We went next door to the next pub and the cycle continued.
I don’t even know why I didn’t say anything at the time, it may have been out of pure shock, but I just went with the flow, again not drinking and watching him take beer shots in the entrance of every pub on my block.
We finally got to the last pub down the street and I spoke up saying I wanted a drink too. We sat down and talked for about an hour. I had one beer and my date had ordered two or three by the time our bill came to the table.
Then to my horror, my dated padded his pockets and admitted he had forgot his wallet. I only had just enough to pay the bill in my purse, literally counting out dimes to cover the tip.
To top it off, this guy couldn’t stop talking about what a great time he had had?
That was not the best date in history, that’s for sure. This one was frankly PG in comparison to some of the other stories I could bring to the table. But the point is, these bad dates that I went on humbled me and made me realize even more what I was looking for.
These guys were not bad guys, they just where not the guy for me.
Continually putting yourself out there is the best thing you can do. Going on bad dates or any date for that matter is good practice. It helps you learn more about yourself and what you’re looking for so that you’re ready when that right date comes along.