We’ve all been there, having intense talks with your friends trying to figure out what went wrong and how to turn things around so that this guy has his attention back on you. Maybe you’re even Googling articles, tips and strategies to mastermind the perfect scenario about how to get him to chase you and come back.
But why are you chasing him at this point? What makes him so great?
Ask yourself; is it just the rejection that has you wanting to turn the tables? Do you REALLY like him? Dig deep on these questions and take the time to reflect on what your motives are behind wanting this guy to chase you.
Clearly if you’re scrambling to find a solution and turn the tables, something isn’t right and this guy is not giving you what you need.
What if instead of chasing and spending so much time researching and masterminding how to get him to chase you back, you focused on yourself and what makes you happy?
The best strategy or advice I could give someone when they have the urge to chase is to step back, take a moment and – Do You!
What does that mean? Reach out to your friends and surround yourself with people who frankly want to be in your life and know what is going on with you. Do things that make you happy and bring you joy.
Chasing after any guy won’t make him want you even more. Playing games or making up a plan to get him to chase you, likely won’t work either or will be a temporary reaction from him on his part.
I know it may seem cliché, especially in the state you might be in, but with the right guy you won’t have to think about chasing or not chasing because he won’t be able to stay out of your life for good.
What’s great about the “Do You” strategy is that it does often work and your guy will come crawling back!
But when he does, I caution you; do you want someone who is not sure if they want to be with you?
Listen to his words and trust his actions. If he wants to be with you, he’ll make it happen. If not now, space will provide the avenue to make it happen in the future if it is in your highest good.