Are you worried that your ex is dating someone else? It’s easy to get stuck on the next girl your ex is going to date after you. Maybe he’s even already dating her. There is this need to find out who she is or if she even exists for that matter. Often times, girls can become so obsessed with trying to find out if and who their ex is dating, they lose the momentum of getting over him. Maybe it’s a coping technique for distracting you from feeling the inevitable and facing reality; you’re broken up.
Obsessing about the other woman and if your ex is dating someone else, only makes you feel worse.
I have been stuck worrying and overanalyzing; Is he dating someone else now? Does he think she is better than me? I can tell you 100%, half of the sh*t I made up in my head was never true and even if I did know who my ex was dating, it rarely worked out with the next girl and was a temporary fix.
I read an article recently when I was doing research for my post called “Decoding Male Behavior: How Guys Deal with Breakups” by Eric Charles. In this article Eric talks about the fact the breakups are actually hard on guys. Eric says “But what about the guy that immediately gets into a new relationship right afterward? This is a no-brainer – a guy does this because he doesn’t want to be alone and he doesn’t want to “deal with himself.” If he jumps into another relationship, he can still maintain his dose of external female validation and self-esteem. It has its cost though and eventually devolves into a crippling neediness. Guys need to work their internal issues out…”
BUT even if the next girl was the love of his life, does it really matter?
You don’t want him. Stop obsessing over if he is dating someone else.
Any guy that doesn’t want to be with you, you don’t want to be with him. Frankly say thank-you to that girl for distracting him enough so that you could be open to meet the man of your dreams!
Forget the other woman, she does not mean anything to your life and your happiness. Leave her and/or the idea of her behind with the man who clearly was not the one.
You’re too awesome to spend any more time and energy worrying another second about him or this “girl.”