In those first few seconds it’s essential to have a concrete dating profile that not only captures your true, unique essence, but also pulls the guy in wanting to know more.
So why are you not getting the results you want from your dating profile? There could be multiple reasons but let’s just look at a few dating profile tips that could highlight some area’s to improve upon.
1. Your pictures are a turnoff
Let’s be real here, people look at pictures first. You have to have good pictures in order to appeal to a guy. What does this mean?
- Get rid of the selfie overkill. One selfie is okay, as long as it’s tasteful but too many selfie’s airs on the comical side. One might question if you have any friends or a social life with too many selfie’s. Eliminate selfie overload. A selfie is OK as long as it’s clear, but if your profile is all selfie’s, or even worse all selfie’s with a slight difference but you took it all at the same time and in the same outfit – only post one of these.
- Your pictures are out of date. Use clear and recent photos. Make sure your pictures are recent.
- You only have one photo. Have more than one photo. Always have a couple of photos on your profile. When you have just one, it tends to make people think you have something to hide.
Think of it as a first impression.
With first impressions in mind, then why would you choose to put up a fuzzy photo or a group photo where you have not labeled yourself, creating a Where’s Waldo approach for your potential date? Label group photos and don’t use photos over a few years old. Use photos that are as recent as possible. If you don’t have recent photos, ask a friend to take a few of you next time you’re out.
Your photos should ultimately tell a story. Pick photos that are fun, show your humour and/or your hobbies.
2. Your profile is WAY too long
One of my guy friends recently brought to my attention that because girls tend to be more on the conversational side (i.e. we like the details) they overload their profiles with a lot of verbiage, versus guys who tend to put the bare basics in their profile. The problem is guys don’t want to read a chapter book when they come to your profile.
- Keep your profile brief.
- Think of a few short sentences that will capture who you are and what some of your hobbies/interests are.
I typical use the list format, listing random facts about me. Here are some of mine:
- Slight obsession with running outside and hot yoga
- Kooky/fun personality, with a balanced introvert side
- My family background is English/Polish
- I can’t turn down a hot day on a patio with a cider
- Not currently tied to one location. The world is my oyster
- Look-alike wise I get compared to Hayden Panettiere
- Love to contemplate the Universe and my place in it
- I suck at snowboarding but would love to try again. I need a winter sport, help me.
- I am applying for a Visa in the U.K. I recently travelled there and fell in love
3. Your profile is boring
People tend to use the same, generic verbiage when it comes to their profiles, i.e. I like hanging out with my friends and I love the beach. Use your humour where you can and/or be creative. What makes you unique? Be specific.
Create a profile name/headline that stands out.
4. You make too many demands
So many guys have told me that other girls tend to place too many demands on their profiles. Putting demands on your profile just creates a negative environment from the start. I realize you likely have had some bad dating experiences and are trying to be as clear as possible, but literally listing; don’t message me if you’re a cheater and don’t message me if you play games, is no way to start a conversation. You wouldn’t go up to someone at a bar or out in public and start rhyming off your “don’t” list, would you? Lay out a few guidelines in your preferences section of your profile and leave the rest up to organic interactions when you actually start talking to the person.
5. You don’t pay enough attention to spelling or grammar
You’d be surprised how many people notice spelling mistakes or grammar when you’re only reading a couple of sentences on someone’s profile. This is your first and only chance to grab this person’s attention. Make it count. Take the time your profile deserves to put your best foot forward. That means using spell check and perhaps getting a friend to do a once over look of your profile.
So now we’ve talked about what you’re doing wrong, lets recap the following dating profile tips to spice up your profile and make it standout!
- Clear/recent pictures: Eliminate selfie overload.
- Keep the profile brief: Think lists and key information about you.
- Use your humour where you can and be creative. What makes you unique?
- Don’t make demands. Keep your profile positive.
- Use proper spelling/grammar. Spellcheck and ask a friend to review.
I would also highly advise you to check out other girl’s profiles online. Look for repetitiveness. Always remember you want to stand out. Pick wording that isn’t necessarily on other people’s profiles and focus on what makes you uniquely you.
And ultimately be yourself. Don’t try and be someone you’re not. That means in your pictures and through your written profile. You want this person to be interested in you, not some online persona.