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What It Means When The Guy You’re Dating Ignores You

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It’s a huge red flag when the guy you’re dating ignores you.

It has happened to us all at some point.  Whether you believe the silence to be provoked or not, no one deserves to be ignored.  It’s unnecessary.

Instead of really re-evaluating the relationship for what it is and the actions of the guy we care for; we often go into rescue mode and try to make things better.  Panic then ensues and we’re holding onto the guy for dear life instead of taking a moment to reflect on what we really want. We may even chase, cyberstalk, cry out for the attention of this guy, but why?  We grasp on as tight as possible, reaching out for answers.

But you have your answer.

If he is still not willing to clarify and speak with you, you have all the information you need.

When the guy you’re dating ignores you, it tells you all, or at least one of the following:

  • He’s not mature
  • He’s not ready for a relationship
  • He doesn’t know how to communicate
  • He doesn’t care enough about the relationship

Instead of overanalyzing the situation, trust what is happening to you.  You’re being given all this information about this guy just from his silence.

The best advice I can give you when the guy you’re dating ignores you is to take this time of silence to focus on yourself.  Do things that really make you happy.  Ask yourself; do you really want to be with someone who can’t even properly communicate with you about how he is feeling or lack there of?

Instead of focusing on the negative of the situation and looking for validation from this guy, say thank-you.  In this moment of silence you have learned so much about him.

At this point, you really only have one choice and that is to let go and allow what is meant for you to come in.  It could be that this guy comes back around when he is ready or that by you letting go, someone even better steps in.

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How To Stop Overanalyzing Your Dating Relationship And Live Your Life

Posted 01/26/15 by Sarah Kotz and filed under:

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When you initially start dating someone it’s easy to get caught up in overanalyzing your dating relationship. Instead of embracing and living in the moment, women often get caught up in worrying about where the relationship is going, if he is dating someone else and when and if you should call him or initiate conversation.

Like many, it can be even harder if you have had some bad failed relationships before.  It’s pretty much a given that you will most likely carry some triggers into your next relationship that could breed some initial insecurity.  It’s important to be conscious of these triggers, acknowledge them but be aware as to not let old feelings ruin new potentially positive relationships.

If you’re worrying about whether or not to text a guy you’re newly dating, you’re thinking about it too much.  

Take a breath and stop over analyzing your dating relationship.

If you want to talk to him, talk to him.  If you entirely pull back and play games by always having him initiate he’s going to pick up on what you are doing and most likely lose interest.  Just be yourself and talk when you want to talk.  The timing of your text and what you say when you text really is not going to make or break your relationship with someone.

Next, for the first few dates with your guy you’re really just getting to know him. Don’t worry about if he’s dating someone else or not, if he really wants to be with you, those girls will fall off anyway (whether they exist or not).  If you’re that concerned if the guy you are seeing is dating someone else, it’s OK to ask.  There is nothing wrong with having open dialogue with the guy you’re dating.  Just be prepared for whatever direction the answer takes you.  Most guys will tell you the truth and if he doesn’t, well you will eventually find out and then you can ditch him for being the douche that he is.  At the end of the day, I will repeat again, if this guy wants to be with you, he will ditch all the girls he was initially talking to and/or dating when he met you and do everything he can to ensure you feel confident in your relationship with him.

The best advice I can give you if you find yourself spinning out of control and overanalyzing your dating relationship is:

1.  Do Not Read Into Things

This is easier said then done but your guys actions and words will speak for itself, not everything has a hidden meaning or message.  Trust your gut and do not look for things that do not exist.  If he says he will call, he will call.  And if he doesn’t call, well then you have your answer; he’s not the one.

2.  Be In The Moment

Take things day by day with your new guy and really get to know him.  You’re choosing him just as much as he’s choosing you.  You will soon find out where things are going and if this relationship has serious potential.

3.  Communicate  

If you’re really questioning your relationship and the guys motives, talk to him.  There is no sense guessing where your relationship stands when you can easily find the answers by asking.  Note, this is after a few dates and you have acquired some sort of standing relationship with this guy, it’s too soon to ask where you stand after only one date.  Talk to him when it feels right not just because you’re triggering.

The more time you spend overanalyzing your dating relationship and your actions, you jip yourself and the guy you’re dating of getting to know the real you and having fun!  No one wants to date someone who is stressed out all the time and can’t be themselves.   Focus your time and energy on this fun and exciting time of getting to know someone and everything will fall in place how it’s meant to.