It’s a huge red flag when the guy you’re dating ignores you.
It has happened to us all at some point. Whether you believe the silence to be provoked or not, no one deserves to be ignored. It’s unnecessary.
Instead of really re-evaluating the relationship for what it is and the actions of the guy we care for; we often go into rescue mode and try to make things better. Panic then ensues and we’re holding onto the guy for dear life instead of taking a moment to reflect on what we really want. We may even chase, cyberstalk, cry out for the attention of this guy, but why? We grasp on as tight as possible, reaching out for answers.
But you have your answer.
If he is still not willing to clarify and speak with you, you have all the information you need.
When the guy you’re dating ignores you, it tells you all, or at least one of the following:
- He’s not mature
- He’s not ready for a relationship
- He doesn’t know how to communicate
- He doesn’t care enough about the relationship
Instead of overanalyzing the situation, trust what is happening to you. You’re being given all this information about this guy just from his silence.
The best advice I can give you when the guy you’re dating ignores you is to take this time of silence to focus on yourself. Do things that really make you happy. Ask yourself; do you really want to be with someone who can’t even properly communicate with you about how he is feeling or lack there of?
Instead of focusing on the negative of the situation and looking for validation from this guy, say thank-you. In this moment of silence you have learned so much about him.
At this point, you really only have one choice and that is to let go and allow what is meant for you to come in. It could be that this guy comes back around when he is ready or that by you letting go, someone even better steps in.
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