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Recurring Patterns In Relationships: If You Don’t Learn The Lesson Now, It Will Return And Return

I have this old piece of paper on my fridge. I have no idea who gave it to me or where it came from but it lists “7 universal/spiritual laws”, one of which always stands out to me when it comes to dating and relationships.  It speaks to the recurring patterns in relationships we often face while learning our life lessons.

If you don’t learn the lesson now, it will return and return.

It’s really as simple as that. If you have a lesson to learn in life and/or in a relationship, it will certainly keep coming back around until you get it right.

Do you notice a recurring pattern in the type of people you date that you’re not happy about? It could be that you’re meant to break this pattern. Have you tried dating different types of people? Have you tried taking a break from dating and focusing on yourself? When patterns form it’s a good queue to really reflect inwards. Ask yourself, what am I supposed to be learning?

Do you feel like you’re on this hamster wheel and it just keeps going around and around and you’re not sure how to get off? Do you complain all the time that things are not changing but you’re not making the steps to change anything in your life? To learn a lesson sometimes requires action. Change is not always easy, but if you’re being called to make a change, there really should be no other choice but to push through the fear of change and face what is meant for you. Sometimes the choice we have to make is often packaged as the scariest choice.

Does someone keep coming into your life and you’re not sure why? When someone keeps coming back into you’re life, it’s either because you’re meant to work on things together or that you missed something the first time around that prevents this person from being released from the incessant universal pattern. Again, why do you think this person is being called to be in your life? Do you have unfinished business? Do you struggle with letting go? Are there feelings still there that were never resolved? Are you in a place where you’re now ready to give the relationship a chance? This recurring relationship pattern is happening for a reason, explore what this means for you. Ask yourself the hard questions.

Are you stuck in a relationship that is no longer serving you and you’re constantly hitting roadblocks to remind you that you shouldn’t be there? Being in a relationship that is not meant for you is painful. It not only hurts your soul to out stay that relationship but it hurts the other person too. The longer you stay, the longer you’re putting what is meant for you on hold. The longer you stay; you’re stunting your own personal growth and your ability to experience amazing new connections. Do you have a fear of being alone? Are you afraid to hurt the person you’re in a relationship with?

There are tons of ways the universe speaks to us when we’re being called to learn a lesson; one of those is recurring patterns in relationships. If you choose to ignore those recurring patterns in relationships, it only delays the inevitable.

If you don’t learn the lesson now, it will return and return.

The best advice I can give you is to ask yourself the hard questions, learn the lesson and take action where necessary. The quicker we begin to soul search and really take the time to learn the lesson, the quicker we move on to what is meant for us…and the next lesson.


Learning The Art Of Letting Go

Depositphotos_25288965_mI wish I could have taught my younger self the art of letting go sooner. It would have saved me a lot of stress and pain in my dating relationships.

One of the biggest lessons one can learn is that when something leaves your life it is meant to.

What I mean by this is, if it is meant to be in your life it will either stay or find it’s way back around again to you. What is meant to be in your life will find its way to you, in the perfect time. No amount of fighting, manipulation or holding on will make things happen any sooner than they’re meant to.

I used to kick up a fight literally when my relationships would end, holding on for dear life to these men. On the other side, sometimes I would stay in relationships that were not serving me, way past when they had fulfilled their purpose and lesson.

Then I started to embrace the art of letting go.

Holding on tight will not make things happen any sooner or make things better if they’re not meant to get better.

Let go and let what is meant to happen for you, happen.

The great thing about destiny is, there is a bigger plan. Once we can learn to let go of what is not serving us, we start moving through life a lot easier. When we fight what is meant for us and choose free will to hold onto relationships or things that have outlived us, we begin to feel depressed and unsatisfied. It literally provokes feelings in you in order to make you so feel uncomfortable, you have almost no choice but to move through the fear of the pain and let go.

But you always have the choice – hold on or let go and let what is meant for you come in.

Embracing the art of letting go has been truly liberating for me and scary at times. You never know exactly what is going to happen when you let go, but I promise you, letting go of the person or situation that is not serving you will only bring the right thing in.

Are you holding onto a relationship that is no longer serving you?

Do you feel like you’re meant to be somewhere else but are afraid of change?

Are you holding onto someone for dear life out of fear of them leaving you?

What is meant for you will stay or come back around.

What is not meant for you will always leave.

Let go.  Loosen your grip a bit and focus back on your love of yourself. 

Let what is meant for you come in, it always does.




Following Your Intuition Is Not Always Easy

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There’s something to be said about that little whisper in the back of your head.  Often times we bypass this intuition by letting our ego take the driver seat, our fear over power, or letting other’s opinions decide how we rule our lives.

It can sometimes turn into an internal struggle where we don’t always think we know what is right from wrong for us.  Following your intuition is not always easy.

Your intuition can be masked in many ways, it could be that little whisper in the back of your head, that dream that keeps popping up while you sleep, or that reoccurring thought; anything that you feel draws you to something or someone.  You cannot always explain why you do the things you do, there is just this pull, driving you in a certain direction.

The ultimate career, the guy of your dreams, where you’re meant to live, there is always that thing in the back of our head guiding us to where we need to be in that very perfect synchronous moment.

My intuition had strongly driven me to quit my corporate job and pursue my writing career all the while not knowing what the exact outcome would be.  The thoughts about quitting my job became stronger and stronger the more I ignored them, eventually manifesting itself into feelings of sadness associated with my job.

It’s extremely terrifying not knowing what is going to happen but at the same time exhilarating. When my fear creeps in with thoughts about how I am going to make money, or if I will be able to make it as a writer, that fear can be debilitating in that moment.  At the same time, there is always this whisper that keeps telling me to hang on just a little bit longer, that there’s something magical happening behind the scenes that will be perfect for me.  It’s almost as if I don’t have a choice but to ride this out.

Following your intuition is very important to fulfilling your own unique purpose.  When it comes to your relationships, is there someone you cannot for the life of you get out of your head?  Over time do they keep popping back into your life?  These are patterns we do not always recognize, but there’s usually always a reason for the pull we feel towards specific people.

Everything will come to light, all in due time.  Being able to sit in the uncomfortable times, pushing through the unknowingness is not easy by any means.  Through these moments we pull from our own internal strength and can really learn a lot about ourselves.

Are you following your intuition in your life? What is driving your intuition?  Is there reoccurring patterns or thoughts that seem to keep popping up?

Following your intuition only places you closer to your life path; where, with whom and doing what, are all amazing possibilities within your grasp.